Things happen around you that sometimes make you evaluate your life a little bit more. Over that past few weeks, all around me, those children that were running around in diapers when i first knew their parents, are getting proposed to or proposing to their girlfriends.
Well, if that doesn’t make you feel old, i don’t know what will.
From where i stand, the proposal should set-off the beginning of counselling sessions for the couple to be. While most people give good counsel, there are others whose advise you need to ignore like the one in the article on the right.
I agree with amount to be spent on the dazzling ring. Let the ring be decent but you don’t need to break the bank for it AND (and this is a big one) you don’t need to wait too long before ‘popping the question’ because you don’t have the great ring you want to give her. If she loves you for you, she may accept your puny ring and maybe she’ll realise that you both will be able to afford a better ring five years into the marriage – the one SHE can actually choose!
I agree with the dropping down on one knee in the article but i totally disagree with ‘but needn’t worry about asking her dad first‘.
Young men let me tell you something, your fiancée will be doubly joyful when she learns that you asked her Dad first before proposing to her. What you’re telling her is that you respect her family enough to let them know first. Believe me, you have just got one of the biggest pass-marks from your future father-in-law! You will get his respect along with his blessing! Your girlfriend didn’t just drop from heaven into your lap for you to marry without you giving due respect to those who raised her.
It is easier to begin your courtship aright rather than spending years trying to make your wife’s family like you.
Am i being too traditional or old fashion? let me know what you think.
Money Management Coach
Author of “Financial Legacy: 8 Lessons My Father Taught Me about Money”